You're out with a group of friends just having a good time. All of a sudden, a simple question regarding one's favorite movie turns into a heated discussion. _(1)_ Perhaps you stay silent because you don't know how to add anythingrelevant to the conversation, or you don't think anyone cares about what you have to say. _(2)_ However, this is not the case in Finland. As a positive cultural trait, Finnish silence is the act of actively listening but not immediately and thoughtlessly chiming in. Furthermore, opinions are expressed only when they have relevancy to the topic at hand and not to fill in any uncomfortable silences. For Finns, silent observation is a sign of respect, whereas speaking profusely and interrupting others is rude and offensive. _(3)_ This is not to say that Finns don't know how to make small talk, though, because they do that when the need arises. Finnish silence has been around since before the industrial era, when it was more essential to find food than to have mindless conversations. _(4)_ Finns learn from an early age that silence is quite acceptable and nothing to be looked down upon. The challenge now is for them to break their silence in order to explain this aspect of their culture to people who haven't been raised in a similar fashion. _(5)_
(A) This silence is uncomfortable for cultures that stress keeping conversations going at any cost. (B) Everyone puts in his or her two cents' worth, except you. (C) They also see it as a way to preserve harmony with others, themselves, and nature. (D) In Taiwan and most Western countries, your quietness would be negatively seen as shyness, a reflection of low self-esteem, and a lack of social skills. (E) That way, they can share all the positives of living in Finnish silence.
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